{"id":860,"date":"2013-11-06T05:00:17","date_gmt":"2013-11-06T10:00:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/issels.com\/blog\/?p=860"},"modified":"2015-02-09T16:04:39","modified_gmt":"2015-02-09T21:04:39","slug":"how-to-help-a-friend-with-cancer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/issels.com\/blog\/2013\/11\/06\/how-to-help-a-friend-with-cancer\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Help a Friend with Cancer"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure id=\"attachment_861\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-861\" style=\"width: 200px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-861 \" style=\"margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px;\" src=\"https:\/\/issels.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/MP9004227441-200x200.jpg\" alt=\"Lend a Hand to Friends With Cancer\" width=\"200\" height=\"200\" srcset=\"https:\/\/issels.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/MP9004227441-200x200.jpg 200w, https:\/\/issels.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/MP9004227441-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/issels.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/MP9004227441.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 200px) 100vw, 200px\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-861\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Lend a Hand to Friends With Cancer<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>When learning that a friend has cancer, most people will offer to help. But as heartfelt as their friend\u2019s offer of aid may be, cancer patients are often reluctant to call and ask for help. A friend\u2019s vague offer of \u201cLet me know if there\u2019s anything I can do to help\u201d may be heartfelt; but it\u2019s a hollow promise if not backed by action.<\/p>\n<p>The best way to help a friend with cancer is to consider the type of help you can realistically provide. This will allow you to make a specific offer of help; such as: \u201dI can shop for groceries on Tuesday evening\u201d or \u201cI\u2019m free on Fridays to drive you to chemo.\u201d Then follow through by calling a few days beforehand to pick up her grocery list or get her chemo appointment on your calendar. By specifically defining your offer to help, you reassure your friend that accepting your offer will not place an uncomfortable burden on your other responsibilities and allow her to accept your offer without guilt.<\/p>\n<p>If you want to help a friend with cancer, offer to do things that will make life easier for your friend or will make life feel more normal for her family. Consider these additional ways to help:<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 Take children to music lessons and soccer practices<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 Babysit young children one or two mornings or afternoons a week<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 Pick up prescriptions<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 Mow the lawn, rake leaves, shovel snow or weed the garden<\/p>\n<p>\u2022 Send over a prepared dinner \u2022 Help your friend research <a href=\"http:\/\/issels.com\/#sthash.4Zb1H1or.e7TOBRAp.dpbs\" target=\"_blank\">alternative cancer treatment centers<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Next time: More ways to help friends with cancer<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When learning that a friend has cancer, most people will offer to help. But as heartfelt as their friend\u2019s offer of aid may be, cancer patients are often reluctant to call and ask for help. A friend\u2019s vague offer of \u201cLet me know if there\u2019s anything I can do to help\u201d may be heartfelt; but &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/issels.com\/blog\/2013\/11\/06\/how-to-help-a-friend-with-cancer\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">How to Help a Friend with Cancer<\/span> <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[201,1],"tags":[234,275,338],"class_list":["post-860","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-cancer-care-tips","category-uncategorized","tag-cancer","tag-cancer-tips","tag-helping-friends-with-cancer"],"amp_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/issels.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/860","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/issels.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/issels.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/issels.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/issels.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=860"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/issels.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/860\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1641,"href":"https:\/\/issels.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/860\/revisions\/1641"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/issels.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=860"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/issels.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=860"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/issels.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=860"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}